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Letters to Myself: Give Up on Your Goals

Dear Kristene, You are a planner. You got that from your mom, your adopted mom, who would spend the better part of a year planning a summer vacation. Remember the stacks of folded clothes on the basement table, months before … Continue reading

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Letters to Myself: The Problem With Nice

Dear Kristene, At the risk of slaughtering your sacred cow, let’s talk about your dad. He was, as you know, awesome at so many things and you are perfectly right to admire his gentle, fun-loving, easy-going nature. He was hard … Continue reading

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Letters to Myself: This is Not a Competition

Dear Kristene, Stop grinding your teeth, drop your shoulders, take a deep breath. And, yes, I know you’ll do what I tell you and then forget ten minutes later but what you really need to know is that you’ve been … Continue reading

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Kickers vs Huggers

The phrase “tough love” is believed to have originated from the title of Bill Milliken’s book “Tough Love”, in 1968. It has since become a catch phrase for any kind of stern, blunt, cold, punitive, and even harmful way of … Continue reading

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It’s a Flying Shame

What are you ashamed of?   What words do you struggle to say aloud? What thoughts make you cringe? What truth about yourself would devastate you if it were made public? I was raised by a mother who, because of … Continue reading

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Fun and Games

On the evening of May 1, 1993, I knew I didn’t want to marry my first husband. In a car with two of our mutual friends, I drove around town and scoured the local bars to find my fiancé. He’d … Continue reading

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The Problem With Bees

When the first bee flies into your body, it’s no big deal. We’ve all experienced the occasional bee or two buzzing around in our chest cavity. Your pulse quickens a little, your muscles tighten, your breath becomes shallow as you … Continue reading

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Safe

Stay safe. Raise your hand if you’re tired of hearing that or any of the variations on that theme. I’m tired of hearing it and I’m tired of saying it. Safe. There’s no such thing as safe in this world … Continue reading

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The Perimenopause Diaries Part III – Bringing the Heat

I am about to do something radical. I am going to share something positive about menopause with you. At the age of thirteen, after my math teacher noticed that my neck appeared swollen and a little green (ick), I was … Continue reading

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The Perron Family Holiday Letter 2020

Dear family & friends, Happy Ho Ho Ho-lidays! This year, Fred and I decided to send out our annual Christmas letter early because we won’t be making our usual trek south for the winter and also time has lost all … Continue reading

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